Same Here
Guess I wasn't done. . .
I was reading someone else's blog today in which this person mentioned how he had been disappointed by someone close to him as a kid, who promised him something and then never followed through.
I can't even tell you how many times I have been in that type of situation. Over the years, so many people have promised to go places, do something, or let me borrow something and then nothing ever happened. And when most of these things happened, several years ago, I was not the type of person to say "hey, remember when you said--"
But having to nag someone to get them to do something they *said* they would bothers me. Why can't people just remember? Maybe I just have an excellent memory or something, because I rarely forget to follow through when I promise to do something for someone. And the times I've messed up, I'm not afraid to apologize.
I had a hard time trusting people in the past because of this. I knew that 9 times out of 10, when someone said "yeah, we'll have to do that sometime," chances are it would never happen. As I was too shy or too scared to be more forward, I used to miss out on things all the time, which just solidified my feelings even further.
So now I don't sit around and wait for other people. I don't know when this transition happened, but so far taking a few risks has only paid off, as far as I can tell. And if someone says they're going to do something, I'm not afraid to remind them cuz it's only fair, afterall.
Maybe I have a little more to say about this, I don't know. I do know that I'm yawning profusely, so perhaps it's time for bed!
I was reading someone else's blog today in which this person mentioned how he had been disappointed by someone close to him as a kid, who promised him something and then never followed through.
I can't even tell you how many times I have been in that type of situation. Over the years, so many people have promised to go places, do something, or let me borrow something and then nothing ever happened. And when most of these things happened, several years ago, I was not the type of person to say "hey, remember when you said--"
But having to nag someone to get them to do something they *said* they would bothers me. Why can't people just remember? Maybe I just have an excellent memory or something, because I rarely forget to follow through when I promise to do something for someone. And the times I've messed up, I'm not afraid to apologize.
I had a hard time trusting people in the past because of this. I knew that 9 times out of 10, when someone said "yeah, we'll have to do that sometime," chances are it would never happen. As I was too shy or too scared to be more forward, I used to miss out on things all the time, which just solidified my feelings even further.
So now I don't sit around and wait for other people. I don't know when this transition happened, but so far taking a few risks has only paid off, as far as I can tell. And if someone says they're going to do something, I'm not afraid to remind them cuz it's only fair, afterall.
Maybe I have a little more to say about this, I don't know. I do know that I'm yawning profusely, so perhaps it's time for bed!
posted by Erica at 10:31 PM
2 Comments:
I remember a lot of things that people have said and done all the way back to first grade as well lol. I seem to be able to not only remember failed promises, but even minute conversations about something like Ninja Turtles from second grade haha. So your not alone with the memory thing.
That said, you don't know how bad I felt about having to postpone that first Boston trip in September because of my heart thing. I really hate it when I plan something with someone and then there is a disaster and I have to cancel it. That rarely happens, but it just so happened then. Either way, we got to go to Boston later, but still, in these situations I fear the other person might think I am blowing them off when I'm not!
Believe me, I was not upset in any way, shape, or form when we couldn't go to Boston that time. In fact, when I was thinking about particular instances while writing this entry, that didn't even pop into my mind! It's not like you just didn't feel like going for no reason (which HAS happened to me before. . .like the first 2 times I was supposed to go to NYC with someone!) And if I was mad that you didn't want to go cuz of the heart thing, that would have made me Irrational Super Bitch and luckily that's not my style, hehe. Besides, it wasn't a wasted day because we still got to hang out, and you certainly weren't *obligated* to invite me over. So, yeah, you never had anything to worry about. ;p
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